Naija police o!!!

I just had the worst day ever....
Lagos can be the sweetest place, the most fun place and the stuff of nightmares!

the day had been wonderful, having dinner with the Mr later...hes taking me somewhere special he says
I'm counting down the clock til 6pm, have so much work to do and don't want anyone stopping me from leaving as soon as its time.

Gosh he looks so nice, he's sweet too, dinner was wonderful we talked for ages...we always have something to talk about.

Got in the car so he can drop me off where my car is parked, its kinda getting late..the folks will start calling soon, but we just cant stop talking...u see the thing is we just had the mother of all fights where we talked about our relationship....now we are both on the same page...no eggshells anymore...we have a lot of catching up to do.

So my perfect day is looking too perfect...i should have been worried...something bad was definitely coming right.....

Something strange is going on....hmmm why did that bus just park strangely in front of us....OMG who are they? they have guns!! Mo gbe o....I'm dead robbers!!....phew just the police...they are trying to check up on us abi....nice of them....Mr wind down lets greet the nice men..."good evening officers, how ur night o, she dey go dey go??"

It was like a movie....." shut up there" " what do you think you people are doing in that car" " oya come down now"

So we came down, trying to explain, show our ids and all that....nothing o....5 policemen reeking of alcohol, with guns....started pushing, pulling and shouting....

I started begging, cos i have heard of many stories of accidental discharge. Mr wasn't hearing it o....arguing with them, shouting...the next thing i know one of them hit him with the gun and they tell me to sit in their bus....by now i was crying my eyes out...i went to the bus and the next thing i know....all of them have jumped in and have started the bus about to move!!! they only want to take me away...to God knows where....why only me though? Were we not two "arrestees"? Mr is holding on to me trying to pull me out of the bus...I'm shouting, screaming, crying....i fall from the bus, they try to push me back in, one of them brings out a cane - koboko to be specific and starts to beat me saying this girl sef too stubborn...but i am determined not to be taken away no matter what it takes.

By now my leg is bleeding, i don't even know where the cut came from, Mr is also bleeding...I'm screaming and crying...i have cuts all over my hand and i look like i work on the farm with the amount of dirt on me! I know there are people on the street, they have definitely heard me shouting, cant see anyone coming to help, cant blame them though, 5 drunk policemen with guns!! lai lai!

This continued for about half an hour, till i practically blacked out....i think they thought i had died so they ran away.

I am kinda still in shock...cant tell my dad yet cos he'd go ballistic!! and at the end of the day its not like i can identify the madmen, Mr is constantly apologising...which is pissing me off, and i don't think i wanna talk to him for a while.

And i am scared as hell...cos now i have heard horror stories of what they do to girls they carry away like that.

If the police cannot protect us....seriously who can??

heartbroken!

Today: A great day of Hope,change and all great things, if all these positives cant rub off me 2day then Im in big trouble!

Been off this for a LOOOOOONG time...missed yáll, was reading...maybe not commenting much cos i had way 2 much on my plate, but this is a new beginning and as Uncle Barack ( yeah i know i have many cousins out there) quoted: Its time to put away childish things!

What do you do when you know you've met THE ONE...however the people that matter dont even wanna now??

Would u marry someone against ur parents wishes?
Would you try to make them chnage their minds?
Or would you just move on and find someone else??

Im so confused!

I love him ,he loves me....they say we r stupid, we are not thinking with our heads! We'd regret the decision later, they r saving us from a lifetime of misery!

That scares me cos i dont want to have anyone tell me those famous words "I told u so"

what do i do....follow my heart or follow my head?

Im confused people....HELP!!


P.S Happy new year!! ( yeah wateva its still january im not 2 late jare)

On a lighter note....that Jenifa movie is seriously affecting my English o....i almost said "Yels"to a client a few days ago!!



and lets see: As it IS a new year....resolutions abi( lets see how long before i break them)

This year i wanna have a better relationship with God ( God helping me cos i know i cant do it without HIS help o)

SAVE! SAVE! SAVE!! ( no more bags, shoes, anything...ok maybe gold seeing as they r an investment as mumc says)...pls my people dont bring me anything.....IM NOT BUYING...and i don tire for bridesmaid abeg!!!

Try talking less:: i tend to get carried away, not sure my sense of umor is understood by most people

Be good ; -) thats open to any interpretation i like!

Be more ME and not care about what other people think!

Give more...of my time, my money...to people who need it!

Think thats about it......please dont forget im waiting for advice!! xoxo

Mixed Bag!

NYSC is over!!! YAY!!! so im officially done with nysc, im so proud of myself, really didnt think i could make it @ first but this year has made me so tough, i feel like supermans long lost sister!...God has been so great....this past month has just been one thing or the other, im officially an accountant!!( no more foolish exams, studying, nothing), got the job i have been wanting since forever and got a new car...its like im walking on water!


All this good fortune has made me think tho, as in why me, and why now. I have not exactly been the best person as per my religious life...well i had a period in my life when i tried and yeah the man upstairs and i were like buddies...we were getting there, we talked( well i talked, he listened...im sure), but the strange thing is that period was the HARDEST period in my entire life...everything was just not working, i was constantly depressed, it seemed like everyone around me was going places and i was stuck! Thank God that period is over, and im finally where i have always wanted to be, sad thing is i feel so far away from Him i dont even know how to say thanks! Why is everything happening now? Why not when i was always with him???


On another note, i heard a funny story on d radio a while ago...still find it hard 2 believe!!

So , this guy call a radio station:

Guy: well i proposed to my girlfriend of almost 2 years and she said no
Radio Dj: What! how come?
Guy: well she said she's already engaged to someone else
RD: and u say she was your girlfriend?
Guy:Yes, apparently she has been engaged to the guy for a couple of years but he has been in a UK prison for the last 2 years for DRUG related offences, he has 2 more years left on his sentence!

I just screamed...as in u have got to be kidding me!! Are people that crazy? why go out wit someone for a year and a half when u know u are not available in the long-term? And for a guy 2 wnna propose, im assuming the relationship was serious, so what was she thinking? And REALLY, she is engaged 2 someone IN JAIL, for DRUGS, who is gonna be there for the next 2 years?? WOW!! I dont even know how to classify it: LOVE or MADNESS!!


Driving in Lagos is Madness tho, no matter how much u love driving: after an encounter wit the okada people..ud be ready to kill someone i promise ( I know i am...im constantly screaming lik a mad woman...NOOOOOOOOOOO dont scratch my car..if only they could hear me)... And traffic! OMG u dont wanna know, it took me 3hours getting from work 2 my house yesterday and from the looks of things i had better get used to situations lik that!!

Anyway im out!! off to bed again, some elections happening today so no movement..thats fine wit me!! xoxo

Still here

hi....im still here....love blogville and not going anywhere soon...

Past month has been unbelievable....nysc is almost over and with that comes another rouund of madness called final clearance....thats when evryone leaves their suits, heels, poise, professionalism..everything and becomes as crazy as those CMS area boys!!

i had 2 endure over a week of pushing, pulling, bribing,sweating......just 2 get 2 pieces of paper stamped and signed....madness i tell u...and then after that do some other unnecessary things dictated by nysc or else u wont get ur certificate....im still so tired, at least by the end of next week id be done and have a lot more time on my hands to do as i please....

....so yeah im still here...just a break in transmission due to the annoying demands of nysc....and as i have been known 2 lament 2 any soul that cares 2 listen....after this annoying year...nysc CANNOT be scrapped, even if i have 2 petition the govt...why do i have 2 suffer alone????..SORRY ;-)

HYPOCRISY!!!

how many times can 1 person break ur heart before its enough?? Do people get a quota? How many is reasonable...1,2,5,10?? Its so funny that we always have all the answers when the story is about someone else....how can she be so stupid...ehn...God forbid, i cant take that from any guy and all that...yeah i know what we say cos i think im the most vocal when it comes to things like that...just realised im a BIG hypocrite...as in they should flog me in the streets type.

Back to this same "hot sturves" that i blogged about some months ago....he's been in and out of my life since then and as much as im ashamed 2 admit it...im almost falling into the whole cycle again....thank God for the distance cos i cant promise these knickers would have stayed on o!!! Anyway so he said we should give this relationship thing a try, he loves me,( he calls just to tell me he loves me) and i dont even know how to describe how i felt when i heard that cos honestly i'd kinda given up on the whole thing by now and finally gotten over him. He hurt me so so many times that i dont think i can count, and when i think about some of the mean things he did ,i realise that he really couldnt have cared about me and he probably still doesnt. He keeps on telling me to come over, he'd buy my ticket and all that but honestly im scared shitless... i cant deal with another heartbreak but its hard 2 breakaway when u have so much history with one person (2001-2008 is a loooooooooooooong time). I know the sane thing to do but im such a romantic which is actually pure madness to a normal person.

Ok, now you're probably saying, if i know all this then i obviously know what to do right?? Wrong...so wrong!! Im so gone when he comes to him, id rehearse what id say when he calls, but as soon as i hear his voice, i become temporarily dumb! I delete his number which is kind of a moot point since i know it off heart....i blame sex and the city...with Carrie and her Mr BIG!!! Things like that so do not happen in real life...so why cant i just practice what i preach...cos trust me, with my friends im kinda like the relationship counsellor( if only they knew).


Anyway all that is over now( I PROMISE!!), i so deserve a whole lot better than that and im determined not 2 settle for any less...Love is not supposed to hurt or be that difficult!!



On another note entirely....imagine how frustrating it is to be in this naija rainy season without a man....situation is getting very critical o...i coulda sworn i saw cobwebs some days ago...
.....Help needed!! Apply within...with complete CV and full references....experience very important!!

Must it have a title?????????

yeah i know its been a while...IM SORRY!!!! ...my exercise and cutting out of all...(ok stop lyin) some of the crap i eat has paid off!!!! IM BACK...and even better...lol!!...and TIN-TIN(boy) me thinks u have 2 recompute that ur foolish brideprice thingy...as in seriously!!..LOL...ok as y'all might have guessed im a lil excited..


Anyway...ive missed blogville...so many things have happened since i was last here...canbelieve blogville idols has started..and without me 2...how did that happen?? I CAN SING!!( well thats wat my mum says anyway...actually only her...she might be deceivin me come to think of it).


So NYSC is almost over...and boy am i excited...so tired of all the stress of CD( communnity development) days and all..even tho i guess im luckier than most who actually have 2 direct traffic or sweep streets in thah god-awful corper attire!! The only problem now is i have 2 decide what i wanna do next...do i stay here and continue with my job for a few more years..( which i love, the experience is out of this world, d pple are so cool but pay not so fantastic) or do i hawk myself off 2 a great paying job where i might not learn as much and work culture typical naija style( oga, madam crap) or do i just bail out of naija 2 do an MBA?? I guess i still have about a month left 2 figure all that out.



Anyway, i have a problem thst i dont know how 2 fix.... Generally im a fun,friendly, playful( almost 2 playful) person, but for some strange reason, every few months i get into some crappy moods and oh boy am i bitch when i am, i get mad @ everything and everyone and vent every chance i get, i cry for hours and dont know why..im still trying 2 understand why...(or does it happen 2 anyone else), cos during those periods i hurt the people closest 2 me, i shut them out and i cant help it...The latest victim was my mum and i feel so bad..i have apologized for being a total bitch but i know it doesnt mean much when i cant explain why or if it happens again.


Lastly...Has anyone been heartbroken?? How does it feel?? How did it affect your next relationship?? Could u go back to the one who broke your heart? Would it work, or would u find it hard 2 stop going on about how he/she broke your heart?

N:B Id be back soon to update...promise!!

IM NOT FAT....am i??

I so hate exercise!!!

ok maybe im exaggerating a lil bit but the idea of exercise really is not my friend. I could walk the length of Oxford street from Tottenham court road to Marble Arch for hours and then start on the journey to Piccadilly circus through Regent street without breaking a sweat!...but tell me to go to the gym or do some exercise and my body just goes numb, luckily for me all that walking helps my metabolism( or so iv been told anyway) and i never put on weight which was fine by me cos my eating habits....SUCK! im like the queen of junk food...i would eat a sausage and egg bagel from McDs for breakfast, twister from KFC with nuggets and milkshake from Mcds for lunch and only God knows wat for dinner...( i know shocking rite) and never put on weight....My best friend tells me she can see my future and its FAT...I rebuke that everymorning in Jesus name...AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Obviously moving to Naija kinda cured that habit or shud i say moved it 2 other avenues since now the dudes in TFC call me by name when i visit...and the chick @ the Chicken Republic on Adeola Odeku tells me to pay the following day if she doesnt have change. Unfortunately i dont get to walk as muuch or be as active as i would like to...so u can guess wat happened.
Yes my best friend didnt have to wait to long for the future...her prediction is coming true...and im not liking it one bit.

i knew my jeans were getting snug but hey it shows off my hips and curves so i didnt mind much until the Naija pple and their big, uncouth mouths started....." OMG you have put on weight this babe...as in u r fat o" ," wow see ur hips", " what have you been eating?" and it just goes on and on and on...

So i decided to do something about it...No i didnt join the gym...baby steps please.

Im gonna start running...early in the mornings.

Decided to start on monday 6am...and since im off work this week perfect.

Got up bright and early on monday and i realised something...i dont have workout clothes or shoes!! But there was nothing gonna stop me i was gonna run no matter what. After going through my shoes i found a pair of trainers, sure they r not made for running but they would def work. They are pink tho so i have to coordinate the whole outfit around them.. found white shorts and a pink tank top( now i look like an agbaya going to a childrens party...oh well cant have it all)...was about to leave till i realised...I TOOK OUT MY BRAIDS LAST NITE!! my hair is a complete mess, (and no i do not have any caps in my house im not a cap kinda girl)...my only saving grace is an oversize hoodie that belongs to my bro which is RED!...so now i look like an idiot but im determined....im going running today...1 hour...every one was so happy for me...cheering me on for doing something so healthy.

Running is so much fun...i can do this for ever....well till i almost passed out....how many minutes was i out running??...just 15!!!!!

It took me longer to get ready!!!!...

i guess thats a work out in itself....maybe i should incorporate that into my workout plan....

OMG i so need motivation...i need to lose weight!!